“Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life” – Rumi
Ah November, the month to feel thankful for our many blessings. I have heard a lot of advice over the years about how to cultivate an ‘attitude of gratitude’. Maybe you’ve tried thinking of one thing each day to be grateful for, a gratitude journal, or saying a prayer of thanks each morning. In one of my Pinterest-y moments I made this. Its pretty easy, stick a piece of paper in a picture frame so you can write with a dry erase marker, and voila! As you can see its well-loved! Still, I needed more. It didn’t feel like finding gratitude once a day really changed much.
Being grateful usually feels like we should be reminding ourselves of all the good we have in our lives. BUT… what about the frustrations? The not-so-good things? During the day, we probably feel frustrated with little things…maybe more often than we feel grateful about the good things. Because we live in the moment, and its hard to be grateful…. when you spill coffee on your shirt or step on a Lego! We are often rushed, we are often stressed, we are often frustrated. Yes?
Let me share with you how to flip your switch so gratitude can be part of your frustrations, your in-the-moment crap!
Kevin Clayson is an author and speaker who has developed an acronym to help us feel grateful in the moments that would usually cause us frustration. This practice helps to turn gratitude into something that you DO, not just something you try to think of when things are all groovy.
Let me paint a picture: This morning I was so tired. I had been up with my baby all night and all I wanted to do was sleep. My 2 year old woke up and was calling for me. Every bone begged me to stay in bed. As I peeled myself up, I knocked my glass of water off the nightstand, and water went everywhere. Ahh!
Maybe your bs snowball develops a little differently, but are you with me? Life was happening…
BUT then, I employed this acronym Clayson developed to FLIP my gratitude switch on!
F – Find the frustration
L – Look for the awesome
I – Initiate gratitude
P – Power up with gratifuel!
So here’s what it looked like when I applied the steps:
F= find the frustration, as in shine a light on the feeling of frustration. Easy to feel frustration, right? SO I closed my eyes and felt the annoyance radiate and I just sat with it, “hey there frustration, high five, there you are!” You gotta just try it and trust me!!
L= look for the awesome, not as in awesome my day started out terrible in a sarcastic way. But there is a pearl of awesome to be found. Its awesome that I have a baby who I can nurse and bond with for this short time. Awesome that my two year old slept in bed all night and only woke up in the morning! Awesome that I had water last night when I was thirsty. Thats a whole lot of awesome actually.
I= initiate gratitude. Feel the gratitude, feel thankful.
P= Power up with gratifuel! By feeling your gratitude your brain actually produces dopamine. I closed my eyes and felt gratitude coarse through me.
I was fully present in the NOW, which is where life exists. Life is never not now! So thats where the power is as well- in the moment. And by flipping the gratitude switch I was fully present in the moment and turned a situation that normally I would have shouted out “(insert swear word of choice)” I actually felt *better*. If I tried to feel grateful for these same things at the end of the day & totally removed from the situation it would not have been the same. OK yogis- you with me?
Over time this gets easier to implement. And it has the power to change your life! Try it yourself next time someone cuts you off in traffic, or takes that last slice of pie!
Thanks so much for learning with me today. I hope you are able to see the transformative effects of bringing gratitude into every situation in your life.
If you want to have some fun with it, take a picture when you flip your gratitude switch! Then post it to instagram with the hashtags
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I wish you peace and love,
(your resident yogi blogger at Good Karma!)
“All you need is love” -The Beatles
(Kelly- you know I had too. I couldn’t publish my first blog without a Beatles quote!!)